Pinterest Induced Depression

Pinterest is a wonderful, mysterious, and addicting website. It is filled with everything from funny pictures of cats to home decor ideas, to the latest birthday cake ideas. It is also depression inducing. Women already have so much pressure to be the next Martha Stewart so do we really need something like Pinterest to compare our selves to? Women are supposed to be the ones that have it all together. We can clean the house, have a five course meal on the table, and have all of the kids bathed, fed, and put to bed by nine o’clock.

If we had a small army of minions and a robot that did our house work for us.

The reality is that life is crazy, the kids get sick, dinner doesn’t always get on the table right at five, and the dishes aren’t always in the dish washer before bed time. And that’s okay.

You can buy that sign here.

But Pinterest has taken it to a whole new level. Now we are supposed to have DIY clothes/home decor furniture/gifts/you name it, and the perfect house. Let me tell you half of those pins that have the perfectly cleaned playrooms with labeled bins and spotless walls. ALL LIES! LIES I TELL YOU!

I don’t even have kids yet and I can tell you that’s not happening just by helping out in the Pre-k room. Do you have any idea how many times I have organized those tubs!? Maybe some people just have genetically modified kids that naturally put things back where they go. But I’m not even that organized. (Maybe I will be when we are in our house, but I don’t count on it)

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The fact is, that most of us have other responsibilities besides taking care of the house, cooking dinner, and taking care of the kids if you have them. The moms/housewives that blog and get their pins on Pinterest, that is their job. That is what a lot of them do day in and day out. Most of them don’t even take care of their blogs by themselves. I know one of them for sure has a group of people that help her blog. She has an advertising person, and someone that makes all of the graphics.

Anyway, the point is that no body is perfect, and no one should be expected to be perfect. Your kids don’t care if the dishes from yesterday are in the sink, and honestly they would be just as happy with McDonald’s. And above all no matter what you do or don’t get done, as long as you love them and care for them they are going to think you are amazing.

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So next time you get on Pinterest, and see a picture of a sparkling clean house, or some craft that looks like it’s not really handmade, and you start to feel depressed. Remember that you are not that person, you do not need to be that person, and that your husband and your kids will still love you even if your house doesn’t look like the ones on Pinterest, and that those rooms looked like that for five seconds, and  you didn’t get pictures of those tubs so who knows what is really in them.  Most importantly remember that most of Pinterest is lies, and that the people that have houses like that are most likely not human, that or they have minions. In which case, can I have some?

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Am I the only one that gets Pinterest induced depression?

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Bride and Groom session (part two)

As much as I hated to, I had to cancel our bride and groom session again. Not because of work but because of the weather. A high of 42, with wind!? No way am I getting my butt out side in a strapless dress to take pictures for two hours. Once again, there is a bright side to rescheduling.

When I rescheduled the first time, I didn’t think to look at the rest of the week. Turns out it is the day after he gets off his four nights. We worked around it though. Mom would drive us up there, drop us off, go shopping, then get us and take us home. Everything would work out. Mom could lace up my dress, and Jacob could sleep on the way there and back.

Then today I checked the weather. A high of 42, a low of 28 with wind out of the North.  I was miserable for the twenty minuets we were taking pictures out side during the wedding. I can’t imagine being out side for two hours in it. Luckily I was able to cancel my hair appointment and all. I feel really bad for canceling on Havi and my hair lady twice. We decided to post pone rescheduling it for a while.

As a way to apologize for boring you with another post, here is a photo of a Sheepadoodle, they are so adorable!

I found it on Pinterest, without a link.

Life after the Wedding day

Since last Tuesday Jacob and I have been married a month, like most brides I spent a lot of time planning my wedding. I pinned things on Pinterest, talked on The Knot, went on a hunt for a wedding dress. But I also, like most brides have dealt with Post Wedding Blues. In fact Post Wedding Blues is such a common thing in newlyweds that The Knot decided to make a forum for newlyweds to talk about it!

The biggest question I keep asking my self, is why do I have Post wedding Blues? I have a Husband, we are working on our house. We had our first Christmas as a married couple, we got our pictures back, I am learning to cook, we are learning how to be a married couple.

Everything is great, I love Jacob, he loves me, we had a beautiful wedding; and if all of this is true then why do I keep changing my mind about rather I hate or love my wedding photos? Why do I have Post wedding Blues? I have narrowed it down to a few things.

1. Pinterest

Like most brides I spent a lot of time on Pinterst looking for this or that, or just looking for general wedding ideas. Which may have been the worst thing I did. It seems fine at the time, but afterwards, when you can’t go back and change things you start to think things like; my wedding didn’t look like that, I should have chosen to get that instead of this, and I forgot about having those, I never got around to it.

My solution: delete all of your wedding boards! I had about ten boards dedicated to wedding related pins: Cakes, dresses, bridal party, favors, etc.. Just delete them. Kiss them all good bye, and believe me it can be hard to do. But it stop all of those little thoughts, the what “ifs”. When I deleted all of my wedding boards I went from having 73 boards to having 52! I feel great about it. Excuse me while I go replace them with food, and house boards.

2. Bridal magazines

I bought all of them, no kidding. I had 28 of them, 28! I gave them all away, to a friend who is getting married, she can have them all. I did however keep one. The first one I bought, the week we got engaged.

Seriously,throw them out, burn them, use them as umbrellas, whatever you decide to do, do it now! It will feel good to have them out of your closet, not to mention having does gone will make more room for more shoes.

3. Unlike/un-follow wedding pages
I had liked them all, and followed all of the boards on Pinterest. Before the wedding I loved seeing all of those post but now, every time I see one I think why do I have that here? It cleared up my news feed a lot on Facebook as well.

If you are like me, you are sitting there like, well there went half of my social life down the drain. Well not quite yet. I came up with a few solutions to fill all of that empty space.

1. Make a Wedding board of your wedding!

I can’t do this yet, because my photographer is trying to get my wedding published. But when I can I will make a Pinterest board of my wedding. It will be a really neat thing to look at, and think how cool it will be if people pin your ideas! Any time you start to miss your wedding, you can just pull up Pinterest, it is that easy.

2.Show off your photos

Make a scrapbook! I can not wait to get my prints in. Although I am not sure if I am more excited for that, or the excuse to go to Hobby Lobby and buy new stuff.  If that is not your thing, make an album on Facebook, and tag your friends in it. Besides it will be fun to fill Facebook up with something happy and beautiful (for once).

3. Write your Love Story

As soon as I finish my college degree, (hopefully in December), I am going to start writing our love story. Is there a better way to save those memories and feelings than writing them down?

4. Go through, or make a memory box

Jacob and I have one, and I love to go through it! It is filled with all of these random things from when we were dating, the night we got engaged, and up till the wedding. We have to start a new one for our married life, but I want to get a new box for it. I still have most of the little notes that he would pass me during class and things like that.

5. Put together a book of cards

Jacob and I got a scrapbook to put all of our wedding cards in. It is a really convenient way to look at them whenever you like, without them getting lost.

6. Go back to college, get a new project

Do all of those things that you wanted to do, but you were too busy for.

7. Stop and think

Stop and just look at your Husband. Did you marry him just so you can have the whole wedding experience? If you did, you have the wrong idea of what a marriage is. I may have only been married a month, but I can tell you that there is much more than that. I may miss all of the buzz that came with wedding plans, but there is no way I would ever trade it for our marriage. I would rather be married to my Husband for a year, then plan a wedding for three years. I wouldn’t trade a second of married life for a month of wedding planning.

Marriage is not going to always be easy, and I don’t expect it to be. But I would rather go through all of those hard times with my Husband, than anyone else in the world.